Divorce, Is that my Answer?

When betrayal strikes it stings to the core. Each "case" is uniquely different. When "my case" was up in the court of my mind, I thought I was the judge. It was my marriage on trial. I was the one abused. I needed to be calling the shots, right?

After 9 years of lying, cheating and one last phone call of, "I am not coming home tonight, because I am in love with another woman and she is having my baby", was enough evidence for murder, but I was willing to settle for DIVORCE!

It was the ultimate betrayal. I had been trying to get pregnant for 4 years. Satan knows how to pull the deadly punches. Has he socked you right between your eyes? I do understand, I have had my heart ripped out too. Satan is a ruthless foe. He has come to kill, steal and destroy families! Are your going to let him have yours?

You have a choice to make. You can continue being the judge and make your own decisions based on your circumstances and how you feel. May I ask you a question about that? How has that strategy been working for you? Has it helped get you to where you are today?

Did you know, biblically speaking, that "we do not fight against flesh and blood but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms"( Ephesians 6:12 niv). If we could talk I am sure you could share about all the baggage your husband carry's on his back. I know you have good, and valid, reasons as to why there is no way to put humpty dumpty back together again. Nine years ago I would have said the same thing. Nine years ago I did say the same thing, now that I think about it.

I did something that changed everything. I stepped down from the judgement plate, cause I am a sinner too. I allowed God to take his place as judge, Jesus became my lawyer, and the Holy Spirit became my comforter and guide.

I did separate from my husband. It was the right thing to do. I did want to divorce him but...
I allowed God to move. I listened and obeyed. He told me to leave a crack in the door so a little light could come through into my marriage. I told him I wanted to dead bolt the door, nail and glue it shut. God kept whispering, just a little crack.

Through that little crack God came in and slowly healed me and changed all the circumstances. It was painful. It was miraculous. He was victorious! Our marriage was saved.

I know you are saying, "That is your story, not mine". Remember we have one common denominator, God the Creator of the universe. Do you think it is an accident you are at my blog reading this? NO! God knew you would be here and he placed me in your path to help you and remind you: God can do immeasurably more than you can ask or think, Ephesians 3:20.

Follow God, He will led the way. If you do not know how, just ask Him to show you and He will. He got you here didn't He?

Mim